Monday, September 1, 2008

Help!

I need an after baby pick-me-up. I hardly ever put time into myself anymore, half the time I don't even have time to shave my legs and very rarely to style my hair. Often I feel dumpy or old, and I'm only 22! I hate that my body has changed so much.. I weigh less than I did pre-pregnancy but nothing is in the same place and all of my clothing looks different. I know all of this is common/normal with pregnancy and becoming a mother, but that doesn't make it any easier :P Jude is 5 months old now and I'm starting to remember that there is life outside my house and my baby.


So, I need some suggestions on how to start feeling better about myself.. and back to "me".

5 comments:

Lisa Clarke said...

When my boys were babies, they cried a lot - I was totally sleep-deprived. What saved my sanity (and gave me a chance to take a shower) was to put them in their exersaucer (or their pack & play) and put on a Baby Einstein video for them (preferably one that just music and pictures of toys, like Baby Mozart). They were totally mesmerized, and I got 1/2-hour of me time.

It does get better - mine are 8 and 5 now, and I have plenty of time for showers and pursuing my own interests.

As for body image? I've heard people say that it takes nine months to get your body all stretched-out, and you can expect it to take nine months to get back to normal.

Hope you're feeling better soon. But if you're not, maybe try talking to your doctor? They've seen all of this before...

Pieceful Bits said...

No 2 bodies are the same..it takes some longer than others.

When my kids were little I got a babysitter for "me" time. Most of the time we had a girls night out (or in).
Sometimes I purposely got up early to drink cup of coffee alone and watch t.v.

It is good that you have your creativity and blogging that helps.

Melissa said...

Medically (as in what my doctor told me when I complained) it takes your body TWICE as long to recover from pregnancy. As in, 18 months from now, you will be back to "normal."

I know how you feel. CJ is 13 months and I have no motivation to take care of myself, other than to look nice for work. Plus it's hard when you don't have extra money. You always feel bad for spending money on something like that.

I hope you're going to pamper yourself for your wedding day, at least! :)

Courtney von T said...

i have found that to feel more like "me" i have made a mini spa area in the bathroom...i spent about 30 bucks on fancy pants British London Nougat bath salts and powders..i am currently on the hunt for the perfect vanilla candle and nice long soaks with trashy silly romance books...
also i bought some cute underwear...nothing like having the "girls" back to where they belong! :)
also never underestimate taking long stroller walks...it is exercise and you might find it tons of fun for Jude...
oh and i like fancy teas...

5purposedriven said...

Buy new clothes that suit your new body. And exercise...walk with the baby. When they are that small, they are content. You might even run into a friend who is also walking theirs, and they...added joy.

Don't think about where you are and don't want to be...think about the one thing you can do to progress, and take joy in that one thing. One little change. It can change your whole world. Trust me!